Attachment Parenting Meets BabyWise

If you are not a parent, or a parent that doesn’t read every single parenting book/theory out there, let me give you a brief lesson.  Attachment parenting and BabyWise are theories on how to raise babies.  I am not an expert, but Wikipedia is!

Attachment Parenting involves but is not limited to (taken from, of course, Wikipedia):


1. Birth bonding: The first few hours after birth are regarded as very important to promote attachment.
2. Belief in the signal value of your baby’s cries: Parents are encouraged to learn to understand their baby’s cries and respond quickly and appropriately to them.
3. Breastfeeding: This is regarded to have physical and psychological advantages to both mother and child.
4. Babywearing: The term was first used by Dr. Sears and it means carrying the baby in a sling or other carrier, close to the body of the caregiver.
5. Bedding close to baby: Sleeping in the same room and preferably in the same bed as the baby is encouraged, as is frequent (breast) feeding at night.
6. Balance and boundaries: Appropriate responsiveness (knowing when to say yes and when to say no) is needed to keep a healthy family life.
7. Beware of baby trainers: Instead of taking advice about how to ‘train’ the baby to make it cry less and sleep for longer stretches, parents are encouraged to listen to their own instinct and intuition.

BabyWise involves but is not limited to (also taken from Wikipedia):

1. Baby Wise describes an infant management plan built around feed/play/sleep cycles. The authors term their approach to feeding “parent-directed feeding”, or PDF:[2]
2. Our conviction is that a baby should be fed when he or she signals readiness.
3. It primarily covers infant sleep and feeding practices, and emphasizes parental control of infant training.
4. Ezzo and Bucknam describe their stance as a middle ground between feeding the baby on demand (when the baby indicates hunger) and feeding based on a strict clock schedule.

There are a lot of BabyWise haters out there, which really surprises me.  In Noah’s first year of life, I did mostly BabyWise with some attachment parenting thrown in.   I have done mostly attachment parenting with Emmie, except #7 obviously, along with BabyWise scheduling.  Both my kids are exactly the same.  They both slept through the night around 2 months.  They both have similar nursing schedules.  They both are happy babies.

I don’t really adhere 100% to any specific parenting style.  I think as a parent you need to just do what works best for you and your kids.  There are some things involved with attachment parenting that I don’t do, and there are things with BabyWise that I don’t do.  I have taken what works for me and my family and used it.

 
So, in the end, I am AttachmentWise!

Nursing Redeemed

Nursing Redeemed

After Noah, I was pretty sure nursing was something that I would never enjoy but, out of guilt, would do with all my kids.  I really didn’t like nursing Noah.  I hated it to the point that I would dread every feeding.  Nursing did not start out well for us.  Noah was whisked away right after birth so we missed out on that crucial skin to skin time.  He was also so drugged up that he couldn’t stay awake to nurse while in the hospital.

When he did finally get the hang of it he would nurse for long periods of time.  He would nurse for so long that I would cut him off after forty minutes.  I weaned him early because I was pregnant with Emmie and probably would have stopped after a year even if I hadn’t been pregnant.  There was no bond and no connection.

Emmie changed that for me.  We had immediate skin to skin after she was born.  I started nursing her when she was one hour old and she was very alert.  Emmie did have a little trouble latching but really, she was/is an excellent nursee.  She is so efficient.  She gets it done in about 10 minutes.

With Emmie I gave myself permission to switch to formula if I really hated nursing again.  I think this freedom really has helped my attitude with breastfeeding.  Emmie nurses five times a day and could probably cut down to four, but I think I need the time with her.  It’s so hard to have any alone time with her.  Nursing is a good time for us to re-connect.

Emmie, my sweet girl, has truly redeemed nursing for me! :)

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Daddy burping milk drunk Em.J

Living the 3 Month Old Life

My little Em J is now three months old and such a happy girl.  I thought my first born was an easy baby, but Emmie is really easy.  I have been blessed with nursing and sleepyhead children.  Emmie goes to bed at 8 PM and sleeps until 6 or 7 the next morning.  She nurses like clockwork five times a day.  She is now completely in cloth diapers.  I will speak for her and say that she loves her cloth diapers.  Em is a socialite baby.  When she is awake she wants to be near her family.  Poor little girl gets lonely if she doesn’t hear us!  She loves to go for walks in her Ergobaby and sleep on me the whole time.  She was not a fan of the car seat and used to scream every time we went anywhere, but she is getting better.

Noah loves his sister and is less often poking at her eyes.  Now he likes to go over and lie on top of her and/or give her hugs and kisses.  We are lucky to not have any jealousy issues so far, but Emmie does sleep most of the day.

Emmie learned how to laugh, and my mama heart nearly exploded.  There is something about a second born that makes you cherish these moments even more!  Maybe it’s knowing just how fast the time goes by.

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Happy, happy, happy!

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He can’t resist poking her eyes!

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Sweet girl

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Just look at those kids!  God is so good to me :)

My Easter Bunnies

I love holidays with my family, especially now that Noah is a little older.  Can’t wait for my kiddies to be old enough to hunt for the eggs!

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Noah and his egg

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My matching men:)

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a boy and his basket

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my babies:)

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Sweet, happy Emmie Jane

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Love my family

 

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Emmie is over all the Easter pics

Cloth Diapers and Other Fun Things

I thought I had no life with one kid; now I really have no life.  I know this because I get way too excited about my cloth diapers.  After the two week trial, I have tons of cloth diapers.  Some were given to me, some are new, and some are barely used.

I was a little unsure about using used cloth diapers, but in the end, the price was right.  Noah is wearing Thirstie, Rumparoos, Bum Genius, and Fuzzibunz.  My favorite brand is the Rumparoos, but it is also the most expensive.  Emmie still wears disposables most of the time, but Noah is cloth all the way now!

Emmie is now two months and such a little angel.  She sleeps most of the day and all through the night.  Her naps are becoming longer and more regular, which is nice.  I was not a fan of the 10-30 minute naps all day long.  She is doing much better with nursing but still hates the bottle.  She eats about five times a day.  She is still sleeping in our room because I don’t want her to wake Noah.  Once they are on the same sleep schedule they will be bunking together.   She is wearing 3-6 month clothes and will soon be in 6-9.  She is my big little girl!

Noah is still learning that he cannot slap the baby!  He loves to go up to her and poke her eyes, stick his fingers in her mouth and slap her head.  Every now and then he uses his gentle hands, but for the most part, he assaults her.  He does have his sweet moments when he tries to give her his sippy cup or pacifier, or feed her animal crackers.  These moments are far and few between.

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Noah loves to fake-vacuum the floor, developing good habits at an early age!

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Noah using his gentle hands with Emmie

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Brother-sister bonding time

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That look of glee is right after he slapped his sister in the face.  Poor Emmie!

Cloth Diaper Heaven

The first time I bought diapers for two kids it cost me 50$.  The worst part was knowing 50$ worth of diapers was probably not going to last me the whole month.

I tried cloth diapers with Noah while I was prego with Emmie.  I bought really cheap ones  and they were horrible.  I had to change them almost every hour and they were always leaking.  I was constantly changing his clothes and it didn’t seem worth the hassle.  Now that I have two kids and I don’t want to go broke buying diapers I have become motivated to try cloth diapers again.  I found a great cloth diapers store in Cambridge called Diaper Lab.

I made the the trip to Diaper Lab today and left with 8 cloth diapers.  Diaper lab offers a 2 week trial where they let you pick different styles and brands of cloth diapers for 2 weeks.  This allows you to see what works best for you and your baby.  For 35$ they gave me detergent, a diaper pail liner and 8 pocket diapers.

Check out my diapers for the next 2 weeks-and they are all brand new!

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I am trying out bum genius, rumparoos, thirsties and fuzzibunz.  So excited to start saving money!

One Month Old

My little Em J is one month old today, and it has gone by so fast.  She celebrated one month of life by sleeping six hours last night.    Emmie is eating every three hours and still sleeps most of the day.  She loves her little brother minus the face slapping and eye poking.  She enjoys having a bath, probably because she was born in the water!  (The birth story will come soon.  I’m almost done writing it.)   We are all tired but feeling blessed.  We love our little Emmie Jane :)

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Baby’s First Haircut

Not sure who was more traumatized , Noah or me.  We take Noah into Snip-its, a kids-only salon, for his first haircut.  Drew goes up to get us signed in while Noah, Emmie and I hang out in the play zone.  Everything is fine until they call us back, and I lose it.  I start crying, which in turn makes Noah start crying.  Drew is ready to call the whole thing off.

The only reason we even decided to get Noah’s haircut is because so many people kept mistaking him for a girl.  I could dress Noah in a collared button down shirt, and he would still get mistaken for a girl.

I was able to get it together for the actual cutting of the hair, but Noah wailed through the entire haircut.  Emmie slept the whole time, and Drew took pictures.  Now my baby looks like a man-child.  I guess it had to be done, but he may not be getting his second haircut for a long time!

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Certificate with a little baggie of his sweet baby hair!

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Check out those locks!  He’s rockin’ the hobbit hair.

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Poor kid :(

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And we both recovered.

Sweet Emmie Jane

My sweet Emerson (Emmie) Jane was born Thursday, February 6th, at 3:32 p.m. weighing 8lbs 13 oz, 19.5 inches long.  We barely made it to the birth center she came so fast!  Once I have some time I’ll post her amazing birth story.

IMG_6246Emmie loves to be swaddled!

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3 days old and heading home.

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Noah loves to give his sister kisses.  He calls her ‘ouwie.’  Emmie is just too hard to say!

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Emmie-1 week old, Noah-16 months old

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Just last week this big girl was inside of me!  (yikes, one week  postpartum is definitely not my favorite look!!)

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My personal favorite

Overdue and Over-cooked

I can’t believe this is my second kid, and she has gone past her due date.  I thought second babies usually came earlier.  Noah came early, so I have never been this pregnant before.

I have spent the past three weeks doing everything in my power to get this baby to come out of me, and NOTHING has worked.

- Pineapple
- Castor oil (though I was too scared to take a full dose)
- Raspberry leaf tea
- Walking
- Clary sage
- All kinds of working out (Crossfit)
- Bouncing on the birth ball
- Spicy food
- Climbing up stairs
- Other unmentionables

I haven’t done acupuncture or evening primrose oil because they are expensive, and I’m too cheap.

It’s funny.  Now that I’m late, I’m no longer trying to make this baby come out.  I think I’ve reached this place of acceptance that she is going to be two weeks late, and they are going to have to cut her out of me.

This is what 40+ weeks looks like…Yikes!

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